Proverbs 21:23 - Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
It is somehow natural for some women to be natural talkativeness (apologies please.). They just love bearing tales and wherever there is a gist going on, they are overtly present. Some of them have a degree in rumor mongering. If you miss any news ongoing in the city, when you just knock on their doors, you will be briefed.
Here, bridling the tongue does not imply that sisters should be dumb, mediocres, timid or shouldn't express themselves; it means that a godly woman should comport herself, know what to say and when to say it, avoid bearing tales and say only such things that will glorify Christ. Talkativeness brings disdain and amidst it lays a lot of lies and exaggerations.
James 1:26 says "If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain". The scripture is explaining to us here that so many things that defiles the mind of a believer proceeds from the mouth and for a Christian to remain holy, it is wise for the person to watch what he says. Some persons are in prisions for the things they said carelessly while others continuously rained curses and poverty into their lives through negative words. A lot of sisters are divorced today because they couldn't watch over their mouths. Their tongues are nuclear weapons that can destroy any weapon ever invented. They just open their mouths and missals flies out to the extent that their husbands and children dread the home because of her.
There is no habit that Jesus cannot change. Take it to The Lord in prayer and ask Him to give you the grace to bridle your tongue at all times. Fill your mouth with the word of God as that will help you to say things that will glorify Jesus. Also, avoid such friends and cliques that draws you to talk recklessly and identify with sisters in The Lord with like minds. Don't be quick to say things, analyse your statemts before making them, and learn not to run into conclusions until you have a concrite knowledge of the situation at hand. Always say those words that will exalt or encourage someone and not things that will only demoralize.
A sister that bridles her tongue and comports herself earns a lot of respect from people but the talkative one is being treated like a plague and she appears too cheap before everyone. Below are some bible passages that talks about this little member called the tongue:
Proverbs 18:21- Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
James 3:6 - 12 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind. But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.
Psalm 52:2 - Thy tongue deviseth mischiefs; like a sharp razor, working deceitfully.
Beloved in Christ, if this message is ministering to you right now, do not harden your heart. Tell Jesus to make a padlock over your mouth. Do not join the multitude to peddle rumor or destroy people's lives and emotions through the things you say. Confess your sins to The Lord and He will make you a changed person.
God bless you.